There's a lot to learn about being a hockey mom!

Hockey Mom 101: 7 Must-Have Tips for the New Hockey Mom

It’s official:  I’m now a Sports Mom — a Hockey Mom, to be exact.  For may years, I was certain my boys weren’t going to get into sports (which was totally ok by me), but here I am.  E’s passion for hockey is awesome.  But I have a lot to learn!  For any other new Sports Moms out there, anyone gearing up for spring try-outs, anyone about to head out to watch a tournament — here are my tips so far:  Hockey Mom 101 from this Girly-girl Mother of Boys:

There's a lot to learn about being a hockey mom!

No cutesy names or cutesy comments

When E skates toward the goal, there’s a part of me that swells with pride/;  that’s my baby.  My baby!  I grew that boy in my belly, and now he’s out there on ice skates!  Skating!  On ice!!!  Pretty amazing.

But that doesn’t give me permission, apparently, to shout out “That’s my baby!'” during a game.  (Apparently.)

At last week’s game, I gave E a quick “good luck” before he went to the bench with his team.  But it came out as “Good luck, Doodles.”    Yeah, that was quickly followed by “Mom, can you not call me Doodles?”  I should have expected that.  And the weirdest thing of all was that I had actually never called him Doodles before. Got it.  No names.  Just “Hey, good luck and have fun” from now on.  Yep, that’s right.  I’m a cool hockey mom.

Oh yeah, and definitely don’t mention how the blue shirt your kid is wearing under his jersey matches so well with the blue in the flag on his jersey.  But DO call it a jersey.  It’s not an outfit.  I learned that fast.


Get fit

I break a sweat tying hockey skates, and I publicly admit it.  And I need some seriously stronger hand muscles to fasten the helmet.

But I’m getting great conditioning running around the house to get everyone ready for early-morning games, and carrying the hockey bag, stick, jerseys and water bottle when E says he needs help.

Climbing bleachers and shivering in cold rinks seems to be burning some calories, too, not to mention the adrenaline from watching these kids do their best and have fun out there.

Seriously — hockey is tiring.  For all of us.

Being a hockey mom means carrying a lot!
Hockey Mom 101 — there is a lot to carry

Master the pom pom hat

Ice rinks tend to be cold, so make sure you are prepared.  I started bringing my cute pom pom hat along with a coat and gloves, of course.  I love my hat!  And I love seeing all the other hockey moms in theirs, too.  What I haven’t mastered yet, though, is how to choose a hat with a pom pom reasonably proportionate to the size of my head.  And more importantly, how it is at all possible to cozy up in this hat during the early morning game, and not have static hat-head for the rest of the day.  Hey, hockey moms — any advice for me on this?  If not, I’ll just keep wearing the hat all day (yes, neighbors, that explains why you see me in the grocery store with it on.  There’s major hat-head under there.)


How do other hockey moms look so great in their hats?
Click pic to see video!

Learn the game

SKATE!  HUSTLE!  GET IT!  SHOOT!  PASS IT!  I shout it all out excitedly while I’m watching the game.  But just as I’m shouting “nice play” to another kid on the team, I hear his dad shout next to me, “you’re completely out of position!”  Hmmmm.  It looked good to me.

I grew up watching hockey, so I generally get it,  But I never really paid as much attention to the actual strategy in the game as I am now.  It’s fun to really get it.  So dive in and watch and learn.  I have no choice, since E recently got a hockey white board and is constantly drawing plays for me and quizzing me on where the players should move next.

tips for hockey moms
Quizzing me on plays


Embrace the cup

YES, I’m a Mother of Boys (M.O.B.).  YES, I am familiar with the very important piece of equipment called “the cup.”  YES, I learned the hard way that when you remove that plastic piece from its nylon holder to put it in the washing machine, it’s not ideal to put it back in the garment upside down.

But NO, I’m not talking about THAT CUP!!!

And despite my son’s absolute excitement and ambition in hockey, I’m also not talking about the Stanley Cup.

I mean the cup you will want to hold in your hands in the freezing cold rink.  Whether it’s coffee, hot chocolate, or tea, I highly recommend something warm and delicious.  And if you have a young hockey player, you probably have practice and games at crazy hours early in the morning, so I recommend caffeine, of course.  Sometimes a bottle of water is a nice change.  And while I haven’t done so myself, I have known other hockey moms who happen to put a little splash of liquor in their cup.  Whatever suits you!

(that’s my trusted go-to travel mug)

Support the passion

When E came home from school one day all of a sudden wanting to play hockey, he also wanted to watch hockey, and read about hockey, and talk and talk and talk about hockey.  So we slowly but surely ended up with lots of hockey paraphernalia to support the passion.  Here’s a list of some of our favorite stuff — be sure to check it out and tell me your favorites, too!  I admit some of the books, especially the “Kids Book of Hockey . . .” was super-helpful in reminding me of the basics of the game.  [click the links below to check out our favorites!]


Face Off:  Top 10 Lists of Everything Hockey

My First Book of Hockey:  A Rookie Book

Kids Book of Hockey:  Skills, Strategies, Equipment, and the Rules of the Game

Hockey Then to WOW!


Hockey Morning Noon and Night

The Day My Fart Followed Me to Hockey


Hockey Wall Decal

3D Hockey Puck Night LIght

3D Hockey Player LED Light

Wooden Team Signs


Fast Track game

Mini Hockey guys

Playmobil Hockey stuff



Team jerseys


Air it out

Be strong, hockey moms.  Those locker rooms smell.  But not as bad as the sweaty equipment.  Even if your kid is tired when he gets home from a game or practice, get him in the habit of immediately emptying the hockey bag and airing that stuff out!  Ideally, not in the family room — we learned that quickly.


TELL ME YOUR TIPS FOR HOCKEY MOMS!!!!!!!!!!!!!  I still have a lot to learn!




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  1. Hi! My youngest is also a hockey player (first year Bantam), so I have a few tips to add!
    – Get some spray disinfectant for the gear. Hang it in the garage or basement. Hockey smells worse than football.
    – Don’t let him see you taking pics from the stands — you have to do it in stealth mode. 🙂
    – Require him to fist-bump both officials after every game. Teach him that the refs are always right, even if they are wrong. Respect for officials is a must!
    These next three items were suggestions from one of our Mite coaches, who was 80+ years old and grew up playing hockey in Canada
    – Don’t carry any of his stuff for him (get a rolling bag if you have to)
    – Don’t go in the locker room
    – Don’t tie his skates
    If you have to help him with his gear, find a bench outside the locker room. Yes, I know there are probably other parents in the locker room, but it’s too crowded, and I have to agree with Coach Gerry. The locker room is not the place for moms.
    Hockey is awesome! I hope you’re Bruins fans. LOLOL!!

    1. These are GREAT additions! Thank you!!!! Poor little guy definitely can’t tie his own skates yet, but he does get everything else on himself. And he often helps carry the stuff … there’s a lot of it! Yes, we may have to switch to the roller bag soon. THANKS for the builds! Go hockey! E LOVES the Bruins . . . but I grew up watching the Hartford Whalers, so it’s hard for me to have Bruins love! 🙂

  2. The Fast Track hockey game looks interesting. I had not seen that game before. Do your boys like air hockey as well or only if the field is made of ice? Lol!
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    1. admin says:

      Oh yes, we love air hockey, too!!!


  4. I’ve been a hockey mom for the last 19 years… my youngest is a 2nd year bantam. My best advice is don’t let them leave an open hockey bag in your vehicle- it smells so bad lol!! Also, it is a passion for the kids- they will eat, breathe, and dream about this sport. Let them do it! And let them play outside as much as possible- even if it’s after a game or practice, it will help them bind with their teammates and meet others. But of course, enjoy the time you have with your kids in hockey- you are able to talk to them to and from practices, games and tournaments. Last but not least, love your hockey family and drink with them- those relationships will last a lifetime 😊 Or is it just a Minnesota thing??

    1. admin says:

      I thought I replied to this months ago, but I guess not! And I’m currently writing an updated hockey mom post, and will definitely use your tips. And, no, not just a MInnesota thing. 🙂

  5. Summer says:

    For hat hair!! I use a little hair mouse, spread it through my hair before I put the hat on! No/not as bad hat hair!

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  6. Love this amazing hockey 101 guide. You have explained each and everypoint about hockey. Thank you for sharing it.
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  7. outstanding!
    Your blog posts are so simple and clear. It covers almost all that i was looking for. Thank you so much for always providing great content. Much appreciated.

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